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Why Dating in Canada Truly Sucks for Women

Rooney
12 min readDec 12, 2021

Oh, Canada.

‘Canadians are so nice’ and ‘Justin Trudeau is fine AF’ were two of the most frequent comments about Canada I would hear when I told people I was Canadian during my time as an ex-pat in Korea, the UK, Germany, and Malta. That and a lot of people got some family or relative scattered across Toronto, Vancouver, or Montreal.

Nevertheless, it’s always warming to hear how universally well-liked Canadians are. As someone born and raised in the land of long winters, Tim Hortons, and hockey fanatics, I know it to be true.

Canadians are one of the friendliest, polite, and apologetic people you will ever meet on this planet. Seriously, I mean I could get hit by a car just standing on a sidewalk and I’ll probably be apologizing to the driver profusely for something I didn’t do. But it’s in my nature to apologize for absolutely nothing because it’s just ingrained in me. Sorry.

After deciding the expat lifestyle wasn’t for me anymore after nearly six years abroad, I traded living in Europe for my sleepy hometown in Ontario. I was eager to reconnect with friends and family and finally “settle” down in the non-traditional sense of just staying in one place for the foreseeable future.

You could say I was spoilt living in Asia and Europe in the quality pool of men. I met men from all walks of life doing things that I loved — exploring dive bars, baking in the sun at the beach, smoky clubs in a tourist trap part of town, impromptu concerts on street corners. I never really had to think about how hard it is to meet men.

Until I came back to Canada.

Well, as one can say, reverse culture shock can be a bitch. But dating in Canada pre-apps and after apps is one dark, dark, dark abyss.

Canada has a total population of 38 million since 2020 despite being the second-largest country in the world after Russia (which happens to have a total of 144 million people). Roughly 90% of the population…

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Rooney
Rooney

Written by Rooney

Canadian without the Eh. Former expat in Korea, Germany, the UK, and Malta. Vanilla latte addict. Karaoke queen. @ru.ni.a

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Sooooo… are we just going to pretend all the male demonizing over the last 5+ years wasn’t a thing?
That when you loudly complain in the streets about gender roles but then silently expect the other gender to maintain theirs; it isn’t hypocrisy…

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We've been trained for years to not harass women and the definition of what constitutes harassment is very broad. We're only doing what has been asked of us. I'm very sorry if it's turning out not to be what you wanted but you can't really blame us…

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Ha!

If we are too aggressive, we are pigs.

If we are not aggressive enough, we are wimps.

Ha!
I have an idea!

Women wear rings to show they are married.

Women should also wear rings to denote they want to get hit on.

“Hit on me rings”!

Make…

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